What is overthinking? Well, simply put it means to think about something too much. I can tell you that I have spent so much time and energy thinking and overthinking about topics that would have taken other people 5 minutes to decide on. There was one point in my life not so long ago when I had to consult 4-5 people in my inner circle to get their opinion on a situation, discuss the problem, rehash what was going on, get their feedback and then decide. Only to maybe rethink the problem a little more before making a final decision. I went through that for years. It was exhausting. It was stressful and quite honestly, it gave me a headache.
I exhausted myself, and I am pretty sure that I exhausted my friends and family with the fact that I could never make a solid decision on my own. I need a consultation on everything from what style I should wear my hair to more serious decisions like should I go back to school.
Since I have been in recovery, I have had the opportunity to explore several subjects and ideas with my therapist as well as self-reflect. The root of my overthinking was attached to the fact that I was unsure and not confident. I also did not trust myself and my instincts. Therefore, I kept overthinking every single decision that I was faced with. Since I have taken the time to do some excellent work in therapy and taken the time to self-reflect, I have complied a list of 5 possible solutions to combat overthinking.
1. Redirecting – When you find yourself involved in a pattern of overthinking to the point where it is becoming stressful or too much too handle return your thoughts to the present moment. What are you currently involved in that you can focus on?
2. Meditation – When your mind becomes to cluttered and overwhelmed with thoughts, meditation is always a good idea. This is a great way to clear the noise from you mind and rid yourself of all the overwhelm.
3. Pros & Cons – If you find yourself faced with a decision that you need to make, and it is the reason for all the overthinking, making a list of pros and cons may be a way to help you come to a quicker decision.
4. Talking to a Friend – Do you have a trusted friend or family member that you can go to with your dilemma? Talking to someone who can give you an objective opinion is a great way to get to the bottom of your situation and alleviate your stress.
5. Strengthening Your Intuition – This is one that takes some work but is well worth it. When you take the time to be still with yourself, you begin to develop your inner GPS.
I have had the opportunity to utilize all the above solutions to combat overthinking. They all worked well for me, but as I am becoming more in tune with myself, I gravitate more towards meditation and trusting my own intuition. All the above methods are great as overthinking can lead to unnecessary stress and worry. Any remedy that will rid me of stress and worry are fine with me.
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