Good Friends are Good for your Mental Health

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The title of this post seems like it is a no brainer.  

Of course you should have friends that are good for your mental health.  But, this one consideration can be overlooked as you are navigating your way through life and trying to manage your illness, and the ups and downs of everyday life.  I have never been a person with an overflow of friends. I am an introvert, and I am more interested in quality over quantity. I have to say I love my friends, they are great but as I have been on my mental health journey, I did not realize how important they are!  Before I was actually diagnosed I would have my periods of being MIA, I would brush off plans and do other things that are consistent with a person who is in crisis. For years it was like this and frankly, I seemed like a big ole flake. I mean looking back at some of the stuff that I had done, I would think that I was a flake also.  

One of the turning points for me in my interactions with my friends was my willingness and level of comfort with sharing my diagnosis with them.  

I had to get to a point where I was comfortable talking about it to the people in my life. That took some time. Once I let them in on what I was dealing with, my behaviors from the past suddenly had a reason for it.  It took some time to get to that point, I am glad that I finally got there.


Having friends in your life that know about my diagnosis and understands how I am affected by my illness has been a tremendous effect on my recovery.  

When I am with them, I feel normal, I feel like myself, and that is the time when I can really kick back, unwind, and enjoy myself. I need that. I think, that we all need people like that in our lives.  Having good friends who love, support, and accept you no matter what can make the difference in a recovery success story, and a recovery not so successful story.




Let’s Stop Living in Fear and Mediocrity

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It is so disheartening  how things like our anxiety stop us of from living the lives that we want and are destined to lead.  

So much of managing anxiety in my experience has been awareness and acknowledgement. I acknowledge when I am anxious and what causes me to become anxious, and I am aware on how to walk myself through the process.  This was something that that took over twenty years to uncover, and I am still a work of progress in that area. But the key is that I am working on it.


For years I envisioned the type of life that I wanted to lead:  

I wanted to eat healthy, exercise, wear beautiful clothes, have an interesting job, and do fun and interesting things with the people that I cared about.  I could see these images for my life in my mind. But my fear and anxiety stopped me dead in my tracks. It was almost as if there was something telling me “Who do you think you are to want to live this kind of fabulous life”!  And I listened to a degree, for many years I settled for mediocrity and left the vision that I had for myself and my life buried in the back of my mind.


All of this changed when I made the decision to take control of my mental health and make my treatment a top priority.  This is when I began to see all of the possibilities that I had available to me. My life was not to be lived from a place of mediocrity and fear.  I was responsible for being bigger than my fear and anxiety.

I never realized how much power I really did possess.

I also realized that my mindset was so important in the maintenance of my mental health disorder.  Of course I am going to have bad days. Hell, everyone has them, but I can live that life that I dreamed about so much, even with crippling anxiety and bipolar disorder.  My message to the world is this: If I can do it, so can you!

So tell me here in the comments, are you ready to stop living in fear and mediocrity?